Whats next?

[Glass]

:cry: in the last year:

one of my friends broke his back, and is now paralized from the waist down

one guy who i worked with growing up, fell off a roof, while repairing it, and died

one of my friends has died from cancer

and now, lastnight, another one of my friends was walking home from a party, because he was drunk, and didnt want to drive, and fell over 230 feet, and is now in a coma

and up until this last year, i never had to deal with anybody i know getting seriously hurt...let alone death...Makes me think about priorities...how ive spent my life so far...Its a hell of alot of thinking to do too...

--John

[mattadams]

John, sorry to hear about all the losses, thats more then anyone should experience in a lifetime, much less within a few months/years. I can't offer much in the way of advice, since I haven't experienced much of that myself, but just be strong. Sorry to hear about everything, hopefully no more!

[Warrlord]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I'm no good at offering words of wisdom or advice. I don't know what to say other than it sucks big time.

Several years ago, a very close friend of mine died due to a blood clot blocking flow to the brain. He was on life support for almost a week. No warning, no nothing, it just happened. Made me do some thinking about my life & priorities too.

I never came up with an answer or a good conclusion. I'm just gonna take care of my family first, be the best father & husband I can be & have as much fun as we can together.

Be strong. :wink:

[MMPC]

Very sorry to hear of all that, John. I do know what you mean though. I've experienced my fair share of sadness - most recently my father's stroke. Thankfully he's doing okay now and things are looking up for me otherwise. I guess life just happens in stages sometimes. The string of tragedy will pass, however, and things will get better. As you said, it's a good time to prioritize and look back on one's life a bit. Good can come of that...

[Tray]

Well, from past experience, I can tell you things get better. If there are things in your life you truly aren't proud of, now is the time to change them. Honestly, the feeling will wear off rather quickly, and if you don't use the motivation now, it'll be gone, and you'll be right back to the same point.

If you're happy with it all, then just be thankful it wasn't you in one of those situations, and look at it as a motivator to continue doing the right things.

Sorry to hear about all of the misfortune close to you.

[Glass]

Thanks everyone....i guess my posting this was just to get it off my chest some....I think holding it in just makes it worse...and after thinking, im feeling a little better about it. Ive already spent some time with my dad today, and with my mom...ive talked to my little brother, and have a stack of 'old" friends numbers to call later....

I think today i realized that its better , when someone passes, to have known them, and had the chance to spend time with them, rather than just see names in the paper. I deffinently know im not the only one to ever experience anyting like this, id have to be naive to think so..but just thumbing my way thru it is deffinently an experience...

and Tray, when you said "just be thankful it wasn't you in one of those situations" You hit my thinking head on. Reason is that i think missing someone, isnt nearly as painful as knowing that youre being missed.
Thinking of times when ive let money, women, or petty squalls come between me and my family and friends suddenly dont make as much sense right now.

Hopefully next summer, ill be able to bring my brother, and maybe even my dad wheelin on one of our trips...because i think theyre having the same revelations i am right now.....especially since a few nights ago, i partied at the same house my friend was walking back from, and also (somehow) walked home, just as he was.

Ohh, and if any of this doesnt make sense, or seems like babbling..lol...it probobally is...This seems like one of very few things i can think of, that no matter how difficult, or painful it is, the good that comes from it, and the opportunity to change is irreplacable.

--John

[rino351]

It is good to let it out rather than keep it bottled up.
That is a horrible ordeal that you have gone through this past year.

Stay strong and happy if you can :(

I have also gone through losses, and it is not easy in the least bit.
My prayers go out to you, your family, and your friends.

[smoothengagement]

yeah try to let it out. i lost my best friend, his sister, and a girl i was "VERY" close to all at once.. ive still kept it inside, and now i dont know what to do about it... ive seemed to block it out, and it sucks not being able to remeber people that you were so very close to!! let it out bro!!