O/T Question to all Guys?

[Anonymous]

What would you do if a your best friend just quit calling and hanging out with you? I suspect it is because of his girlfriend. Here is the sceneiro. Me and my girl are very good friends with my buddy and his girl. We have been hangingout alot for about a year now. All of a sudden about a month ago my buddys girlfriend just did a 180 and pretty much hates us???????? his girl and my girl were like best friends as well. this all started about the time she turned 21 ( why I have no clue) I could careless about his chick but it kiils me to be ignored by my buddy. We have talked a few times sincee all this crap has been going on and when it is just me and him everything is fine. but the second his girl is in the picture it all starts again. Do you guys have any advice for me. I have been trying to find out what the hell is going on for a month now but he wont return my calls and his girl just ignores my girls emails and calls. I am at the point of just saying screwit!!!!!! man the more I think about it the more it really pisses me off!!!!!! :evil: do I just giveup and see if he ever calls ( man It sounds like he is my chick huh! LOL! ). It just really sucks. I have never had many friends in life by choice but it really sucks when the closest people to you just up and screw you!
This is more of a rant than anything
thanks guys!

[Up2myLbowsNmud]

heres my thoughts... if she and therefore they are ignoring you guys then probably either you or your girlfriend did something that upset her/them... So basically you can ask them what it is that you/your girlfriend did that upset her/them... and try to apologize... but it sounds like either they don't want to confront you with the issue or are too upset about it...

once you do your part, be it apologizing or just telling them that it sucks they don't hang out anymore and that you miss it, you've done all you can, its up to them to accept it.

I would make sure that he knows you miss being buds before you let it rest though.

[Anonymous]

He knows how I feel. I really think that the problem is his girl wants time to themselves, Which is great, All she had to do was say so BUT she wont. Instead she would rather ignore the whole situtation and make shit worse. I truly believe that I have done everything I can do on my end. I just think it sucks that she is going on with it this way instead of coming out and saying what is pissing her off!
thanks for the response bro.

Anyone else?

F#@$#%^ Chicks I swear!

[mattadams]

Hirolln, up2mylbows is a girl, not a bro. LOL You met her at Hooters! :). she cheated and responded ot the question for the guys.
Anyways, tough scenario, I heard a bit about it from Jen at Truckfest. I hate situations like that. I agree, sounds liek she got offended somehow. Knowing what I know about it, my guess is that its because of your girlfriends new foudn friendship with Jen. Maybe this other girl feels left out or excluded for some reason, maybe they had something and she wasn't invited and she felt offended and she came up with some story to tell to "guy x" that may or may not have been true to get him mad at you. Women work in mysterious ways, my brother.

[Up2myLbowsNmud]

sorry, matts right, im a girl... I read the "to all guys" as figurative not literal...

and what Matt said is QUITE possible... that your gf found a new friend and the old friend feels left out... that will do it in a heartbeat!

[Tray]

Just give it time.

If he's truly a friend, just wait, he'll be back. 90% of my old high school and college buddies have gone through this phase at some point. It gets to the point where either they will break up, or they will get married.

If they break up, he'll be needing some friends, and while he may not admit it, he'll know he screwed up. If you can be cool about it, and not take anything from right now personal, you'll both have a good laugh about it later.

If they get married, chances are they will need you guys back, as it's not that easy to find a 'couple' where both the guys and the gals are all friends. Trust me, my wife makes friends with a ton of ladies from work, and while I get along with pretty much anyone, some of these guys are just too far out there for me.

[Anonymous]

Tray,
You hit it on the head. I found out last night that that it has all to do with them spending time alone. And you are right it will either be a break up or a proposal soon.
Matt,
It has nothing to do with my girl getting new friends. true this all came to a head about the time Jen came into the picture BUT I know that this has been brewing for almost a year now. Now that I know what is going on I understand exactly why things went down the way they did.

Up2mylbows,
Sorry about the bro thing! HAHa. But it is always great to get a womans opinion on these situtations.

Basically here is the just of it. My buddies girl goes to school in Fort Collins during the week year round. Now they both race all summer on the weekends she races a dragster all over the country and he races the 4 corners areas all summer. So basically they NEVER see each other. When they have a day off we are usually all together. It just finally got the best of her and she couldnt take it any more. So that is where we are now the boiling point is over now the resolve needs to be figured out!
thanks everyone for your comments but things (as or last night) make sense now! :wink:

[clavos]

Glad it's making sense to you now. I didn't want to throw my 2 cents into the pot as I am the master of failed relationships and didn't want to make things worse. LOL.. It'll work out in due time.