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Niks80

07-04-2005, 02:15 AM

Alright, so here's the story. There is this guy, who will remain nameless, that I REALLY like. He has told me that he REALLY likes me too, but I'm not so sure. How the heck can I find out how he really feels? I've thought about just coming right out and asking him how he feels, but everytime I see him he's got a friend with him. I can't seem to get him alone to actually talk to him. Any suggestions would be much appreciated.

Mind_Boggler

07-04-2005, 08:24 AM

NIks,
I'd say for starters, make him be alone with you, suggest an afternoon/evening dinner or something. Then you'll have him all to yourself. And if he's anything at all like me, he'll actually appreciate you being direct and just asking.

mattadams

07-04-2005, 09:42 AM

niks, I'd say just hang out a while, and the answer shouldd make itself clear in time. You're not on a race for the clock or anything, so best bet is just to wait and see... sometimes guys say they like you, and actually mean it, but not be the best at showing it to you in the way you want.
Courtney says you could play hard to get and see if he tries to get ya... but at the same time, she says she hates games... and I'm with her on that. :)

cory

07-04-2005, 09:51 AM

both of you just go watch the fireworks tonight ,in the dark, explosions with lots of color and coming from me no alcohol. lots to talk about and maybe you'll make your own fireworks

Niks80

07-04-2005, 01:53 PM

Thanks for all the advice guys. I guess the biggest problem I have is getting him alone. I have told him a couple times that I would like to spend some time alone with him, but he just doesn't seem to want to spend time alone with me. I'm not sure if it is just because he is too busy or what. I have never had a problem getting a guy to spend time alone with me. I guess this is why I am not so sure he is telling me the truth about him liking me. Oh well, I guess I'll just give it some time and see what happens. Thanks again!

RayLCC

07-05-2005, 09:40 AM

One of the most frustrating things about women ( aside from them ignoring me completely :lol: ) is that they leave little hints and signs that we as guys are supposed to pick up on. The problem is these signs are so vague they are only recognizable to the woman giving them, so she gets mad at the guy for not having Monk-like detective skills and professing his love in the EXACT, impossibly romantic way she thought he would in her mind. So he interprets it as "playing games" . For me, and for most guys I've talked to. A woman who plays hard to get isn't worth the effort. It doesn't make her more desirable and you'll most likely end up playing some form of hard to get the whole relationship until you get sick of her. Because she doesn't actually want you. She wants the drama of having someone chase her. My best advice is: if you can't get him alone, pull him aside. Ask him out. No games, no hints. If hes really interested he'll jump at the chance and make time. If he says hes too busy.He's either completely not interested in you and trying to reject you in a kind way. Or he really is just too busy. Either way its time to look for someone new. Be honest and upfront with him. Whether hes interested or not, he'll appreciate it.

UrbanCowboy

07-05-2005, 10:08 AM

she gets mad at the guy for not having Monk-like detective skills and professing his love in the EXACT, impossibly romantic way she thought he would in her mind.

New season starts this week.... Time to watch and learn

mattadams

07-05-2005, 10:28 AM

Nikoll, some other advice I can give is just ot not smother him. Sometimes guys get scared if they are being smothered, like constantly hounded for this or that, seekign to define a relationship after a week, etc. My original advice stands, just let time tell you how he feels.

Niks80

07-05-2005, 11:28 AM

I don't think that I am playing games. Unless he thinks otherwise, which is possible I guess. I have been very open and honest with him and will not play hard to get. I have come right out and told him several times that I would like to spend even an hour with him alone. Maybe this is part of my problem, maybe I am too open and honest and share my feelings too quickly and scare guys away. I'm also not trying to define the relationship, I am just looking to find out if he is still interested, or if he would rather just be friends. At this point after reading the advice from you guys, I am beginning to think that he maybe isn't as interested as he originally lead me to believe, but I'm not sure, and that is why I have wanted to talk to him. I don't want to just assume that he is not longer interested.
Thank you all for all your advice, it's very nice to have somewhere to come and actually get good advice.

Niks80

07-07-2005, 12:51 PM

I just wanted to say thanks again for all your advice. I found out what was wrong today, and well from what I understand, I guess I'm single and available again! If you know any nice guys that might be interested, let me know. No, I'm just kidding I'm not really looking. :lol: Kinda nice being single sometimes, that way I get to flirt all I want and not get in trouble for it.

DaneTrain

07-12-2005, 04:13 PM

Niks80

07-12-2005, 04:21 PM

Hey, my firefighter buddy is single...and only hot people drive white rangers (me being one of them) so I'll see what I can do. LOL.

Thanks for the offer, but I am actually seeing someone right now. Someone that a few of you may know especially Jeff and Cory.

Mind_Boggler

07-12-2005, 04:24 PM

:lol: Dane

I'll be getting a Ranger this weekend, 'course, it's a '76 F350 Ranger... ya know, the real ones?? :P

lol, just giving you hell

and, PS, this guy is still single, and I'd have to agree with Niks, sometimes it's great, but other times, it royally sucks! lol

besides, i flirt all the time, whether I'm single or not...
although when I'm not, I'm usually (but not always) flirting with the girl I'm seeing

RayLCC

07-12-2005, 09:36 PM

I got a chick that kind of wont go away. Does that count? The real love in my life is white. I guess it's single but it can't be female. It's predictable, reliable and doesn't complain about quick short trips in the middle of the night. :thumbup:

Now the cream-puff is a whole different story. Its tempermental, screams its tires at the slightest slip of the clutch, if you want to take a ride It expects a new accessory to be bought for it, (remember the coil wire.) and you better have what seems like an eternity to play with the choke and throttle or you'll probably be going nowhere fast. Yup, the cream-puff is definitely a female!
:wink:

Heath

07-12-2005, 09:56 PM

ROFLMFAO.... Ray you sure do speak the truth...

Burg460

07-12-2005, 10:18 PM

:roll: I'll just go back to my cave.. :hiding:

Walking Eagle

07-13-2005, 07:25 AM